Basic Principle: Recognition is only reserved for the best of the best.
Where they focus most of their attention: Recognition, results, and efficiency.
What Threes understand about themselves: They identify with accomplishment and success, seeking the approval and acceptance of those around them. They tend to push their feelings aside in order to achieve their goals, and they are very image-conscious. Threes are often ambitious, competitive, and adaptable.
Type Three – A Brief Overview:
Threes value achievement above all else. Therefore, results and image are crucial to them, often caring too much about what people think of them. They will do anything to achieve success (whatever that may look like for them), and usually have problems with competitiveness and working too much. When they’re performing at their best, they’re authentic and offer gifts of hope and inspiration to the world.
Desires: To feel valued and worthy.
Fears: Feeling like they’re no one and being unworthy.
Wings: Two-Wing with Four-Wing
Type Three Overview:
They are the role models and go-getters of society. When they are living within the healthy aspects of themselves, they are truly capable of achieving anything that they set their minds to. They understand the importance of developing themselves and their abilities, encouraging others to dust themselves off and reach new and incredible heights that they never thought were possible. They are usually well-liked among their peers and represent the best of what society has to offer.
It’s not difficult for Threes to find success, as they have a strong belief in themselves and in developing their abilities. They exemplify what society views as valuable characteristics or qualities. While finding success is what drives them, success can come in different forms. Within certain cultures, it can be defined as finding fame through acting or singing. While in other societies, wealth and driving expensive cars are the epitome of success. Whatever the definition, Threes are capable of wiggling themselves into this mold and becoming a remarkable individual no matter how family or society defines this.
During their childhood, they have learned to discern the qualities and activities that their family and those around them value, and have learned to cultivate them throughout the years. As a result, Threes understand how to transform themselves into whatever society or their family have asked from them.
While needing attention and encouragement is human nature, there’s no other personality type that personifies this need more than Threes. For Threes, the need for success doesn’t stem from wanting financial security or power, but it comes from their incessant need to fill the empty pit left behind by feelings of unworthiness. Without the feelings of accomplishment and attention that success brings with it, they fear that they have no value in this world.
Unfortunately, it’s easy for them to get caught up in the rush of success, and they will often lose themselves along the way. As they learn to depend on the praise and attention of others, their need to be valuable and “successful” may pull them even further from their authentic selves. Along with distancing themselves from their authenticity, they may also feel as though they don’t truly know what their heart wants. Instead, they understand what they’ve been told to want.
While they are situated in the Feeling Center, they may not regard themselves as a “feelings person”. It’s easy for them to put their feelings aside and to achieve what they’ve set out to do. Instead, emotions are traded in for logic and practical action.
One of the biggest problems that Threes face is the extent to which they’ve adapted their lives. And it’s usually difficult for them to discern what their true desires are and what others have expected from them. Therefore, they might find themselves looking back at a life where they haven’t been able to be their authentic selves. Instead, they are someone whose only desire is to be accepted. While many may feel this need to adapt and transform themselves, it is the very air that Threes breathe. Unfortunately, this may bring nothing but them nothing but pain.
Learning to grow within Type Three:
If you are seeking genuine transformation, you must be honest with yourself and what it is you need. Go beyond the surface of wanting to be appreciated and praised, and discover your true emotions. Step away from trying to impress others and being boastful. Instead, show people the authentic version of yourself.
Nurture your relationships by taking a minute to appreciate those you care about. Why not give someone a call or send them a text message – anything that shows you’re thinking about them. Through simple actions such as this, you’ll be able to create deeper relationships that will allow you to become a better friend and a more loving person.
Threes are always in pursuit of their goals, but it’s essential to take a break now and again. Develop self-care practices that will allow you to connect with yourself on a deeper level. This will only help to achieve your goals faster and to improve your outlook on life.
Develop your empathy by getting involved in projects that have nothing to do with your goals and aspirations. This will help you to cultivate and discover your identity and values. Because Threes tend to adapt to the expectations of others, they must do the opposite of this. Resist the urge to fall into this pattern. Instead, attempt to discover what you find acceptable and valuable for you.